Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Monday, February 25, 2013
Trying to believe
I felt really good yesterday about my husband saying things would be better. But I don't know if it actually can be. I wanted us to have a "date". I bought some ingreedients for one of our favorite dishes and he was going to cook it so we could eat that while watching the oscars. Normally I don't care about award shows but we both love the guy who was hosting, in fact we credit our mutual love of his shows to us getting together. So I went to bed early and set my alarm so I could wake up and have our special night. When I woke up he told me he didn't feel good and didn't feel like cooking, oh and he ate the chips that we were going to have with the meal. So he said he will cook the food tomorrow night instead I just have to pick up more chips on my way home from work. |
Sunday, February 24, 2013
Great way to wake up
Well Friday I wrote about giving my husband my deal breakers list. He really didn't take it well that day and I knew talking while I was pissed off would be pointless anyway. But today while I was sleeping he wrote me a note and taped it to our bedroom door. I read it and we talked for a bit while I was getting ready for work. He did agree to the issues I had brought up, mainly I want him take his medications correctly. when we pick up his pain meds from now on I am going to leave the amount for the day on his nightstand and hold the rest. He agreed he needs to take his psy meds on time each day which will make a big difference. I just want to live a real life. I want to go out and be social, plan trips, and not hide from life. I am trying to save some money for us to be able to have a real vacation this summer. I want us to actually plan a trip and I don't care where we go. |
Friday, February 22, 2013
when will i know?
How do you know when enough is enough? How can you figure out when things are too bad? I have said never again but here it is again. I don't want to just get by in life. I want to live a full life and I am not. I don't do things and I am not honest about things because I need to take care of him. He won't deal in reality and actually believes certain things that are not going to happen. Doctors call it grandiose ideas, I call it annoying after awhile. |
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Try again
Get 25 grams of fiber and 45 grams of protein Ok I did most of the things on my list for yesterday. I had told myself Wednesdays are my days, I try to keep the mornings free and not do anything I don't want to do. No chores no appointments for hubby nothing. So I didn't put my clothes away and I didn't make soup because I still have 2 servings left from my last batch. Oh and I need to photocopy one of my tax forms and then I can mail that junk out. So while I could not cross everything off my list I was able to get the important things done, like me getting 9 hours of sleep! That was way more important to me then putting clothes away. |
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Lets keep rolling...
Well so far I am having a pretty good week. I was able to keep myself in check eating the past few days which is a big deal since I had a day off from work. Yesterday I had therapy and I was almost fully honest which was weird. I told her that I was depressed the past few weeks but I am starting to feel a lot better. What I left out was that I think I a feeling more "up" because I started taking bronkaid again. But that was the only thing I didn't tell her about, which is major progress. |
Monday, February 18, 2013
New week
Let's see it is Monday and I am determined to have a great week. I want to improve on the things I have been working on because there is plenty room for improvement. I was concerned about my portion sizes and I have been pretty good about that, minor slips when around cookies but better than before! I need to drink more water as I felt very dry this past week. I also am due for my period this week so if I get more water in me it should help prevent too much bloating. My wt has stayed very steady which I find very annoying but I want to stay rational, the extra wt will come off eventually from adopting healthier habits. Right??? That is it, ofcourse I have other ideas like not eating crap food but I don't want to focus on that for right now. I think all of that will fall into place as I gain a healthier relationship with food. I hope that preplanning exactly what I am going to make when I get home will help. My danger time is after work, always. So I need to focus on that time today. You know what is annoying? Knowing that I am focussing on food right now because I feel like the rest of my life is too crazy to put in order. But it is true and I can't deny it. I say I am going to put things in order and I just give up. I tell myself its easier to just stay still and not change, but really its not. Its just an excuse. I need to get things going and stop wasting time. Sounds fun right? |
Sunday, February 17, 2013
Being rational is hard!
So my personal goal as of late has been trying to find a balance. A balance in all aspects of my life. I am finding it hard to not eat due to emoitions as I use carbohydrates like a drug. I have found it is possible when I keep certain foods out of my house, but somethings just show up! I have to keep my resolve however many times I might slip and learn from each slip. |
Saturday, February 16, 2013
Emoitions run wild!
Wow since I wrote last I think I have felt every emoition! Let's see I left work and when I got home I was so angry at my husband. He had taken some over the counter meds with his regular meds and they made him oblivious to the fact that he is a grown up. I basically gave him the silent treatment most of the day, I instead of spending time with him I went to our room to be alone and then I went to sleep and stayed that way til thenext morning! Well that was valentines day which is also his birthday. So I had a loose plan in my head of what we would do and it turned out awesome. Let's see breakfast out at his favorite place, bought him sneakers, got him a new cellphone, a tatoo, and then dinner another of hi favorite places. He was so happy he cried, he said it was his best birthday ever. I also gave him our sexy present. It sounds lame but I read about it in a magizine and did it another time and he loved it. You put 104 stones or marbles in a pretty container, 2 stones for each week in a year. Then when ever you want you take a stone out and place it somewhere the other person will find it. That means that in the next 24 hours you plan on having sex. Like I said cheesey but it is fun and he loved it last time I set it up. |
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
17 years...
It occurred to me yesterday while I was driving home from work that 17 years ago this week I went on a diet. That was when the fire was started on my ED. I had been slowly building up to it, looking back I can see that disordered behaviors started around 8. But at age 14 the week before Valentines Day I thought I should lose about 10lbs. I wasn't content with 10 so I kept going. In the past 17 years I can pick out 2 summers that I was comfortable with my body, 2 out of 17. I am tired of pretending. The mask I wear is very realistic but I know it is fake. It is time to stop and actually BE. |
Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Tryiing to stay positive.
While things are okay I am trying to keep a positive state of mind. Yesterday went well overall, work was good and so was hubby. I did not get as much sleep as I wanted but that wasn't too big of a deal. Hubby saw his psy dr and was given a new medication which I will pick up on my way home from work, hopefully we will see an improvement. I also asked him to consider going to a support group for families dealing with mental health issues and he seemed open to the idea and will think about it. I think it would be good for us. |
Monday, February 11, 2013
Bronkaid
So on my way to work I noticed how elevated my mood was compared to the past week or so. I had taken a week off from taking bronkaid, which is an asthma medication technically. I take it for a completly different reason however, it is a stimulate and kills my hunger. The neat thing is that if I take a break from it, like a week or longer, when I start taking it I end up in a much more positive state of mind. I wish it would last. Anyway.... |
Friday, February 8, 2013
Learning curve
Well I refuse to look at this past week as a failure. I was able to eat many healthy, delicious, and nutritious meals which is a great thing. My weak points I have identified and I need to come up with ways to handle them. I didn't gain or lose any wt even with my slips. |
Sunday, February 3, 2013
Two strikes
Ok day three of my goal to not eat for the wrong reasons and I am determined to stick with it. My downfall the first two days was cereal, no surprise. But to look at the positive side I didn't really go too crazy, I ate great until I came home from work both days. Unfortunatly, I did end up eating cereal once I was home, which I ate too big of a portion. If I had not overeaten I would count it against me but I did. |